Remember that time in middle school you didn’t make the soccer team and you were devastated? You were absolutely heart broken and really felt like life couldn’t go on. But you got over it. And you came out better on the other end. It was a bump in the road, and you endured that bump and moved on.
Looking back, you probably laugh at that bump and wish all bumps were as ‘hard’ as that one. However, as you get older, life gets more complicated, more difficult, and the bumps get bigger. It doesn’t mean you can’t move on from them; it just means it takes a little more courage, a little more positivity, and the belief that it will all be ok. Because, hey guess what? It WILL all be ok.
Growing up, no one tells you that life isn’t going to always be a cake walk. They don’t warn you about that quarter life crisis that might show up, they don’t tell you that relationships take work and that friendships change and that work isn’t always as easy as it once was. Sometimes I wonder why there isn’t a guide book on this (oh, but hey, there is one on dating, sex, and relationships in your 20s – I wrote it –buy it here! #shamelessplug).
What I have learned, though, is that bumps are par for the course. Bumps are inevitable, but you can (and will) ride those bumps and come out just fine on the other side. It might be hard to envision moving past the harder times or the rough patch, but time heals all. It really, truly does.
About seven years ago, I went through my own rough patch. It stemmed from a break up, but turned into the worst time in my life. It was a bump in the road if I had ever seen one. However, I got through it. I came out even better on the other side. Did I think it would all be ok when I was in the thick of it? Hell no. But here I am, telling you, it will all be ok. Even in the worst of things, just trust, and listen to your gut, and know that it will all be ok.
Think of this as your Monday a.m. kick in the ass. Whether you’re going through a sub par time at work, with friends, with your boyfriend, whatever the case may be, don’t be so hard on yourself.
You 100000% (yes, I’m that certain) will get through it.
Guaranteed.